Which wolf will you feed?

June 1, 2014
I had never heard this story until a week ago.  It resonated through me and has left me contemplating…in a good way.  I hope it does the same for you:
ONE EVENING, AN ELDERLY
CHEROKEE BRAVE TOLD HIS
GRANDSON ABOUT A BATTLE THAT
GOES ON INSIDE PEOPLE.
 
HE SAID “MY SON, THE BATTLE IS
BETWEEN TWO ‘WOLVES’ INSIDE US ALL.
ONE IS EVIL. IT IS ANGER,
ENVY, JEALOUSY, SORROW,
REGRET, GREED, ARROGANCE,
SELF-PITY, GUILT, RESENTMENT,
INFERIORITY, LIES, FALSE PRIDE,
SUPERIORITY, AND EGO.
 
THE OTHER IS GOOD.
IT IS JOY, PEACE LOVE, HOPE SERENITY,
HUMILITY, KINDNESS, BENEVOLENCE,
EMPATHY, GENEROSITY,
TRUTH, COMPASSION AND FAITH.”
 
THE GRANDSON THOUGHT ABOUT
IT FOR A MINUTE AND THEN ASKED
HIS GRANDFATHER:
 
“WHICH WOLF WINS?…”
 
THE OLD CHEROKEE SIMPLY REPLIED,
“THE ONE THAT YOU FEED”

 

Gripped by Fear?

Sunday, February 2, 2014

 It’s the middle of the night.  You’ve been tossing and turning.  Now, you stare at the ceiling – heart racing.  Something’s got your stomach in a huge knot and it’s making you nauseous.  Trying to figure out why you’re so anxious, you start to narrow it down to what happened earlier today. But facing reality is the last thing you want to do when you’re suppose to be in dream mode – peacefully drifting into a place where there’s no pain, no rejection and no suffering.  Forehead sweaty, you sit up abruptly.   You haven’t been able to get a good night’s sleep in 5 years.

There are six anxieties that are basic to all mankind: fear of criticism, illness, old age, death, poverty and losing a loved one.  Has one or more of these universal fears taken over your life?  Caring about these things is very different from worrying about them.  Worrying is pointless and can lead to anxiety, depression and an inability to lead a positive, productive and full life.

The first thing to do is address the root of your fear.  It could be any one of the fears listed above or something else entirely.  Whatever it is, you have to first recognize it and acknowledge how you feel about it. For example, whenever you’re starting to feel anxious and abnormally stressed, say to yourself, “O.K.  I’m afraid I’m going to lose my job because of the way my boss has been treating me lately.”  After you’ve acknowledged it, choose to overcome it.  Say to yourself, “I can’t change my boss; I can only change me.”  You’ve just taken over the driver’s seat.  In this situation, your feelings about losing your job may or may not be accurate.  But all you can simply do is figure out a way to work more effectively, respectfully talk to your boss about his/her expectations of you and how he/she feels about the progress you’ve made thus far (or the lack there of).  Planning and being prepared is always smart, so revisit your resume and make sure it’s up-to-date.  After all, no one has absolute certainty about his or her job.

The moral is simple.  When fear starts to suffocate you – you need to recognize it, acknowledge it and then decide to overcome it by doing something (positive) about it – And above all, have faith.  God is bigger than any problem you’ll ever face in life.  So, when you’re at a lost for words, or lack direction, ask Him to guide your steps.  You may be surprised where that may lead you.

This Time of Year

During the holidays, we can easily lose sight of what’s really important.  Let’s make the effort to truly enjoy each other’s company and focus on the true meaning behind Christmas.  Click to listen to my new Christmas song, “This Time of Year.”  It’s my free gift to all of you – To download, click on the Sound Cloud link below.  Merry Christmas!

Move with Purpose

November 2013

It’s easy to get off track and lose sight of the goals you want to accomplish in life. Life happens: heartache, hardships and procrastination. To stay focused, pick goals that are meaningful and authentic to who you are as a person – and keep moving towards those things. We were each given a unique set of gifts that need to be nourished and fulfilled. With a plan, backed by faith, self-motivation, determination and a little help from others (if you let them), you’re more likely to attain those goals. There’s only ONE you. So live life confidently and with purpose.

To read more about the steps you can take to get your life back on track, go to November’s Shift Magazine: November Mag 2013

Tug of War

Defining who you are is complicated.  Redefining yourself is even more difficult.  Growing up doesn’t only happen when you’re a kid.  Some of us adults are still trying.  We’re mature in certain ways and not so much in other areas of our lives.  The key is to not get stuck.  If there’s a part of you that needs to change for the better, work at it until it’s changed – even if it means wrestling with yourself every single day.  The saying, “That’s just the way I am…” can be very dangerous.  To believe that there’s nothing within us that needs improving is denial.  I don’t want to live in denial anymore.  Do you?